Words About Jealousy. Oh, Jealousy …

Human beings need certainties in others.
It is impossible to live in constant uncertainty.
You can’t take a step if you don’t know where the ground is going to be in the next instant.
Because there is always an earthquake that upsets everything.

Jealousy is a natural feeling.
Because we cannot choose to feel only the good.
Pain, sadness, anger, fear or jealousy are part of the spectrum of human emotions.
To deny it is to deny who we are, it is to avoid walking through our shadows that shape us just as joy, desires or love do.

Jealousy is not something static.
Their values ​​do not come out in an analytic.
They depend on your story and also the moment you go through.
What they are is common because all of us live with the feeling of abandonment.
And some manage it better than others.

But at some point we feel like they won’t come back for us.
Or that they are going to go.
Because deep down we don’t believe that anyone really wants to stay or return.
Because we are not able to see each other with the eyes of the other.

And we only see ours who many times unfortunately are not the best.
Yes, we look at each other with the worst eyes as if we were our own enemies.
Comparing ourselves, distrusting and trapping all the insecurity in the world in our little bodies.
It is often wrongly said that jealousy is a demonstration of love because it is the confirmation that something matters to you.

When in reality what they come to demonstrate is that the other does not matter to you.
That the only thing that matters to you is yourself and the possibility of losing that which is so good for you.
That is why jealousy is the crystallization of selfishness.
Because you are not capable of putting yourself in the place of the other person and you can only think about what you need.

Feeling unhealthy jealousy for someone is not loving them more: it is loving you less.
Because it is reducing your world to a single thing.
Because it is impoverishing your reality.
It is not seeing everything you do have.
It is not understanding that it may end, but everything will.
That accepting the finiteness of things makes us freer.

Jealousy is educated the same as everything.
You can always learn to be better.
And it will not be telling you that you love yourself because that is an empty and false message.
Of course, it would be ideal for you to love yourself, but sometimes it’s not just that you love yourself.
The important thing will be that you fill yourself with many things.

That you think what you like.
Who are you without others.
And that you start to build with a multitude of nuances.
For the other.
Just be something beautiful among that crowd that lives in you.